When we started the adoption process back in September 2008, several people suggested we start a blog to capture the time while we were waiting to build our family.
In theory I thought it was a good idea and thought I would do it someday because, that’s what “good” adoptive parents do.
Good adoptive parents record every moment of waiting time so that they have a “pregnancy” story to share with their child when they ask about how they became a family.
Then I got all caught up in the notion of what “good” adoptive parents do and got overwhelmed in the judgement about what I am supposed to do.
I hate doing what I’m supposed to do.
So instead, I decided to just do some projects that interested me while we waited. So far, I’ve taken all classes possible to move across the salary schedule (who doesn’t love more money???), studied to become a yoga teacher and now I’m training for a half-marathon.
Oh and I started a daily writing project about two things I love: yoga and music.
I guess my future kid will at least know his/her mom was super busy while waiting.
Interesting to me now, that this blog about my becoming a yoga teacher is evolving into a kind of “pregnancy” story. It’s documenting the changes in me over time. I guess in my own way, I am documenting my transformation into a parent.
Adoption is obviously a longer wait than biological pregnancy. It’s also a much more personal “pregnancy” because there is no physical reminder of our impending parenthood. If people don’t know we’re adopting – they would never know we’re expectant parents. We don’t have month-to-month bump photos or ironic t-shirts.
We just have a big binder and a whole bunch of waiting.
I’m curious how other people documented their transformation into parents.
How did you document your pregnancy or waiting time?
How did you share that story with your child when they asked?
Biological or adoptive stories are welcome. Please share your stories here.
Today’s yoga brought to you by the home practice! It’s a half-marathon training day.
Today’s music is The Ecstatic by Mos Def.
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