Yesterday we got some disappointing news. Our adoption wait is going to take longer than we first thought. Current circumstances are pushing our wait to the longer 24+ month wait, rather than the optimistic 18-24 month wait. Not the end of the world, but disappointing nonetheless.
It didn’t really sink in until this morning how sad I am about it.
I have been operating on the optimist time frame. I had it in my head that by next school year we’ve have our kiddo at home and instead of trying to teach everyone else’s kids how to read, I’d be home learning how to be a parent.
I’m not sure exactly at what moment my disappointment set in, but when the tears started, I wasn’t sure they were going to stop. By the time I reached the school parking lot, I had it pulled together. I figured I’d just muscle through and then come home and continue to be sad.
I slipped through the office unnoticed and made it halfway to my classroom when I encountered some of my colleagues talking to one of my former parents in the hallway. They all greeted me with a warm good morning and my eyes immediately welled up again.
Next thing I knew, I was enveloped in a great big mama teacher hug crying like a baby. Big hugs and kind words followed. I explained what had happened and one reminded me what I already knew… that “our” kid isn’t ready for us yet and when he or she is ready for us, we’ll be there.
Their kindness helped me put our situation in perspective. So it’s going to take a bit longer than we thought, but when it happens it’ll be right.
So thank you dear friends for your support and love.
One of my best friends is adopted and proud of it. She tells me all the time that her parents had 4 placements not work out before they got her. Why? Because she belongs with them. Period. One day you will look at some beautiful child and say, “wow, for being born in some foreign place, you sure belong here!” All good things are worth the wait.
I love everything about that story…. except the 4 times part! I hope our path is decidedly less complicated.
Please hug your friend for me.
such big hugs to you and jed
Thanks for the hugs.