This month in class, I’ve been asking students to explore the concept of self-acceptance and have been met with nervous giggles, sighs of knowing recognition and blank stares. I’m pretty sure most people starting or returning to yoga in January thought we’d be talking about “real” resolutions like losing weight or starting a fitness program and finally sticking to it.
Instead I’ve been asking people (myself included) to practice being ok with what is, right now. Seems simple. Until you try it and are met with various layers of distraction or resistance.
I know these intimately because I’m practicing this too! So today I’ve decided to share my resources for self-study on self-acceptance for this month.
Podcast: I love a good dharma talk. Recently I’ve discovered Tara Brach, an American Buddhist teacher/author of Radical Self-Acceptance, and I’m inspired. Finding True Refuge is definitely worth a listen.
Do you have any dharma talks that you love? Please let a comment so I can listen too.
Book: Beautiful You: A Daily Guide to Radical Self-Acceptance by Rosie Molinary.
Friends, I have been “trying” to read this book for years. Fact: It’s been sitting on my to-read self for years. Basically, I’ve read every other book on every other shelf and avoided this book.
What’s been the resistance? The daily practice part – I’m only now learning to love that learning is a process rather than something you either do or are.
The self-acceptance part. Truth: I felt I didn’t need it. I believed I loved myself. Or at least that’s what I defensively told myself, dammit. And then I got quiet and realized I struggle with feeling good enough. It’s a very quiet, but extremely pervasive voice.
Adding to this crazy is how I absolutely devour all of Rosie’s blog posts and our adoptive mama correspondence. I love her. She has so much wisdom and I have learned so much from her.
So I’ve been soaking up all the daily lessons. This time just reading, but I think this will turn into a journaling practice. Or maybe a series of posts and reader challenges. There is some damn good stuff in here.
As it turns out, self-acceptance – at least how Rosie defines it – isn’t so scary after all!
Favorite exercises so far include:
Name Your Inner Critic – I’m thinking Blanche. As in, “For god’s sake Blanche, just shut it all ready.” We’ll see.
Realize That Your Dissatisfaction Is Not About Your Body
Banish “Have You Lost Weight?” From Your Vocabulary — my friend Rebekah wrote about this here.
Have A Comeback
Consider the Time You Have Lost
Quiet Your Critic
Go To Bed Earlier
Are you intrigued? Want to have a book club with Beautiful You? We totally could do one online. Leave me a comment if you are interested.
I highly recommend reading:
Gifts of Imperfection by Brene Brown (really all her books).
Traveling Mercies by Anne Lamott (really all of her books)
A Path With A Heart by Jack Kornfield (my favorite is The Beginner’s Guide to Forgiveness)
Writing Down the Bones by Natalie Goldberg
I want to read:
Radical Acceptance by Tara Brach
Mega Yoga by Megan Garcia
Yoga From the Inside Out by Christina Sell
Do you have any acceptance or yoga books to recommend?
Tell me – how is your resolve to be with what is going?
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