Three things happened recently that made me think of the worst break up of my life.
The first is deciding to attend my 25th high school reunion this weekend.
I know. I don’t even know how that happened.
Just know this decision has my brain is all awash in high school memories and with that memories of my first long term (8.5 years!) relationship. While we didn’t attend the same high school, going back in time got me thinking a lot about that particular break up.
The second was reading Rosie’s post Getting Over Heartbreak: A Primer. I wish I’d had this when I was getting over that relationship. My intuition helped me get through using most of the ten steps, but it sure would have been nice to have them all together right in front of my face.
My favorite tip: minimize exposure. I’m even quoted!
As Tami says, “call your girlfriends instead of calling him. unfriend on fb, take his number out of your phone. If you are still dying from pain after 6 months of no contact, maybe talk then.”
The last was catching Alanis Morrisette’s “You Learn” on the way to the pool the other night. I was brought back to a moment in time when in the summer of 1995 four twenty-something women, two British and two American, were unabashedly singing out loud every word to every song of Jagged Little Pill over drinks at a casual dinner party and the conversation that happened as a result.
And this got me thinking about break up albums. Is Jagged Little Pill everyone’s break up album or are there other records that help people move on from heartbreak?
You tell me. What’s the most played heartbreak record in your life?
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Jagged Little Pill Image Source: wikipedia
Forever Blue by Chris Isaak or Patsy’s Cline’s Greatest Hits. Actually, I just listened to “I Fall to Pieces” over and over and over…and maybe “Crazy.”
Ani DiFranco’s Dilate is break up P.E.R.F.E.C.T.I.O.N.
1. I am so glad you’re going because that means I get to see you and I love to see your face in person.
2. I think you may have nailed this one. Granted, I’m no musicapedia or anything, but this album is the S#$T. This came out when I was living on my own in an apartment on Dam Road, and I hadn’t been out of my folks’ house for long, so I think of this as my, “I’m a grown-up and live all by myself” album. Because I would play it all the dang time. But anytime I break up (and I have truly only had 2 boyfriends and then there is this other thing where I break up like once a week), I am pretty sure I find myself singing, “You Oughta Know” at some point. Partly for reasons I shan’t delve into here. Sneaky face emoticon.
3. See number one!!!!!!! Did you see on Facebook I’m thinking of wearing a dress I’ve worn three times before that was on sale for $14.99 and I’m way more excited about that than I should be?
2a. I’m going to go play this album right now on that Spotify! So thanks!