Best Break Up Album of All Time: You Decide


Three things happened recently that made me think of the worst break up of my life.

The first is deciding to attend my 25th high school reunion this weekend.


I know. I don’t even know how that happened.

Just know this decision has my brain is all awash in high school memories and with that memories of my first long term (8.5 years!) relationship. While we didn’t attend the same high school, going back in time got me thinking a lot about that particular break up.

The second was reading Rosie’s post Getting Over Heartbreak: A Primer. I wish I’d had this when I was getting over that relationship. My intuition helped me get through using most of the ten steps, but it sure would have been nice to have them all together right in front of my face.

My favorite tip: minimize exposure. I’m even quoted!

As Tami says, “call your girlfriends instead of calling him. unfriend on fb, take his number out of your phone.  If you are still dying from pain after 6 months of no contact, maybe talk then.”

The last was catching Alanis Morrisette’s “You Learn” on the way to the pool the other night. I was brought back to a moment in time when in the summer of 1995 four twenty-something women, two British and two American, were unabashedly singing out loud every word to every song of Jagged Little Pill over drinks at a casual dinner party and the conversation that happened as a result.

And this got me thinking about break up albums. Is Jagged Little Pill everyone’s break up album or are there other records that help people move on from heartbreak?

You tell me. What’s the most played heartbreak record in your life?

jagged little pill

Phone image source: by NeatoVintage on Etsy

Jagged Little Pill Image Source: wikipedia

Ten Things I Loved In February 2013

For the last few months I have been doing these reflection posts after being inspired by Rosie’s. Taking time each month to reflect on the good things that happen each day/week/month has done wonders for my ability to actually stop and notice the good stuff.


Ten Things I Loved In February

Things I/We Did

1.      Day trips to the Bay Area. When seasonal allergies are killing you, why not just get the hell out of dodge? We visited with friends, ate dim sum, watched dogs playing at the dog park and generally avoided all the trees I am allergic to in Sacramento. Bliss.

2.      Reached out for help when I needed it. Friends rallied and my doctor kindly reminded me how much nasal spray allergy medicine is my friend.

3.     Brunched at home. Steel cut oats with all the fixins with some of my favorite local yoga ladies. Seriously, if you have a kid (or are otherwise busy most evenings) I highly recommend having friends over for breakfast. It is a great way to connect and share a meal at a non traditional meeting time so more people are available.

4.    Published my HIRE ME page. Hello, universe! And just like that, people contacted me to work with them on exciting projects. More on this to come later!

5.     Advocated for myself in a way that felt authentic and true. I can’t share on what yet, just know I made myself proud.

6.     Visited the quiet and remembered it is hard and scary. And worth it.

Products and Services I Dug:

7.     Schroeder’s Shoes Repair –You know when you get such great customer service it brings a smile to your lips and a tear to your eye? This is that place. I brought two pairs of Mary Janes in with strap issues and he fixed one pair while I was standing there (for free) and did an excellent job fixing the other for $5. Please keep this guy in business and bring all your shoes here to be repaired.

On The Bookshelf 

7.      Bringing Up Bebe by Pamela Druckerman. I reviewed it here.

8.     Beautiful You: A Daily Guide To Radical Self-Acceptance by Rosie Molinary. READ IT. So we can talk about it!

9.    The Five Love Languages: The Secret to Love that Lasts by Gary Chapman. – Oh my. Oprah and Gretchen Rubin both mentioned this title and I thought I’d give it a chance. Turned out to be a quick read and left me wanting all my friends and loved ones to read it so they could tell me their love language. I’m a Words of Affirmation with an Acts of Service chaser. Do you know your love language? Have you read this book? Did the “love tank” language make you giggle out loud every.single.time. you read it? Or was that just me?

Warning: at the very end, the author lets the reader in that he’s super Christian. Since this came as news to me, I thought I’d let the cat out of the bag in case this sort of thing also surprises you.

10.     I Want to Apologize to Every Teacher I Ever Had by Tony Danza. Did you all know Tony Danza, from Taxi and Who’s the Boss? fame, taught high school for a year and had a reality show about it? If so, why didn’t you tell me? I read this book in about a day and a half. It was charming and quite frankly, he said a lot of things teachers like to hear.


So what are you loving lately? I’m always on the lookout for what is delicious in food, drink, fashion, and life. Leave me your favorites in the comments or write a post of your own and link back here.

Image Source:  LOVE mirror by Oxley Woods Photos on Flickr (cc)


Loving:     Watching my beautiful child nap in the car and parking outside of Temple to use their wifi.  Oh the sweet, gentle nap time. So much better than the frustrating last few weeks of nap resistance and mama yelling. And just a few days ago, I was worried that this was becoming a thing and now I’m a peace with it.

Oh time (and perspective), I love you.

Watching:     MarieTV. I love getting videos each Tuesday. Marie teaches how to create a business and life to love. Funny and helpful. Every single week.

Reading:     Beautiful You: A Daily Guide to Radical Self-Acceptance, Hunger Games (because I try to stay ahead of the trends), and The Happiest Toddler on the Block.

What can I say? I have a lot of reading needs.

Anticipating:     A trip to see Rhett Miller play in SF in March!

Listening To:     Tara Brach’s “Finding True Refuge“.

Planning:     My birthday party. I know it is still more than 2 months away, but still.

Working On:     The plan for next school year and my return to the classroom.

Wishing:     I could stay up past 9 pm.

What about you? What are you currently…?

Thank you, Gina, for the post inspiration!

Image source: We Heart It

Ten Things I Loved In November

Taking time each month to reflect on the good stuff has done wonders for my ability to actually stop and notice the good stuff. I’m truly thankful for Rosie’s inspiration.

Ten Things I Loved In November

Things I/We Did

1.      Voted. Since the election is over, we can now start answering our phone again. Yes, we still have a land line and we are the only living humans without caller ID, so you understand why this is so exciting. I’m also really happy with the outcome of the election and feel pretty damn good about the people in my Facebook feed. Hardly a reason to defriend anyone.

cutest ballot holder ever

2.      Draped over a bolster for hours at a time at the One Day Emotional Restoration Retreat with Michelle at It’s All Yoga.  Laying down for a couple hours, without sleeping, fully supported by props? Totally underrated. People, get yourselves to a restorative yoga class STAT!

pausing is good.

3.     FairyTale Town – Built in the 50’s, the play areas are metal and pointy and not at all what I expected. I think I liked it more than the kid, so we’ll definitely be going back.

4.    Embraced the leaves changing.

the twins

5.     Visited the redwoods in our backyard at the UC Davis Arboretum. Holy moly tree huggers! These redwoods ground me in a way I never thought possible or at least thought was reserved only for the ocean. I’m glad I’ve decided to embrace nature instead of bourbon.

tree hugger

6.    Introduced Ruby to the chickens who roam free in Fair OaksTo be honest, I just really needed a change of playground scenery and deciding to visit the chickens was a pretty easy choice. A 20 minute drive from home and some serious laughs. Little girl was perplexed by their very existence. It cracked me up because a lot of the chickens were taller than her.

chickens are king!

7.    Celebrated Thanksgiving on Wednesday instead of Thursday. Dude, talk about taking the pressure off. I highly recommend it for the holiday avoidant.

On The Plate

8.     Mandarin pineapple smoothie {3 seedless mandarins, a bunch of frozen pineapple chunks and a container or plain soy yogurt in the blender with a touch of honey.}


9.     Polenta with marinara, olives, spinach, artichoke hearts and Daiya.

On The Bookshelf 

10.      Daring Greatly by Brene Brown


So what are you loving lately? I’m always on the lookout for what is delicious in food, drink, fashion, and life. Leave me your favorites in the comments or write a post of your own and link back here.


My friend, Rosie Molinary, made a list and I loved hers so much I stole her idea. Now I’ve been inspired to pause and notice the good stuff each month.

Ten Things I Loved In September

My friend, Rosie Molinary, made a list and I loved hers so much I stole her idea. Now I’ve been inspired to pause and notice the good stuff each month.

Ten Things I Loved In September

Things I/We Did

1.      Old 97’s Too Far To Care Tour

My favorite band playing my favorite album start to finish in one of my favorite cities in the world? YES, please!

Seriously, one of the best shows of my life.

Imagine orange cowboy boots, Maker’s Mark up, and very, very loud singing along. Oh and the in-between-song hopping up and down in anticipation of the NEXT.FAVORITE.SONG!

Old97s know how to take care of their fans. For years, my girlfriends have talked about how “wouldn’t it be great if the 97s played TFTC at a show? Like, the whole thing?”

True story.

Dreams do come true.

-Thanks to fellow superfan/photographer, Lori Hillhouse of I’ll Show You My Four Leaf Clover, for the photo.

2.      I started teaching a WEEKLY restorative class at It’s All Yoga – Tuesdays, 7:15-8:30.

You should come. It’ll be fun.

Seriously, even if you aren’t in Sacramento or haven’t ever tried restorative yoga, you can do this pose (Viparita Karani or Legs-Up-The-Wall) for ten minutes and you will feel so much better than you do right now.

Check here for potential health considerations.

3.     I went to the movies! In the theater! Again! This time with a friend!

4.    We went to a swimming pool party at our friends new house. So happy to have even more friends close by.

5.     I taught a class for Sacramento Free Day of YogaSo awesome to meet so many new people. Labor Day Monday – get it on your calendar now for next year.

On The Plate

6.     Fat Face strawberry coconut popsicle. 

7.    Sweet potato black bean stew.

September, in a nutshell – too hot not to eat frozen treats, but the calendar says fall and so we eat fall food.

Products (and Services) I Love

8.      Evernote. It is changing my life by letting me organized in one place.

9.      Pinterest. Meal planning just got ridiculously easy by dropping pins in my Evernote file.

10.     Emailing with my doctor. So efficient!


So what are you loving lately? I’m always on the lookout for what is delicious in food, drink, fashion, and life. Leave me your favorites in the comments or write a post of your own and link back here.

Ten Things I Loved In August

My friend, Rosie Molinary, made a list and I loved hers so much I stole her idea. Now I’ve been inspired to pause and notice the good stuff each month.

Ten Things I Loved In August

Things I/We Did

1.      Portland. I love you. Not in a want to move back way, but in a really happy I used to live there way and I’m super happy some of my bestie besties live there way.

2.      We saw a movie! Together! In the theater! For the first time in way more than a year!

3.     It’s All Yoga photo shoot. I love these people. Click the picture for more fun times.

4.    Celebrated 17 years of awesome togetherness.

5.     Duran Duran Appreciation Day.

On The Plate

6.     Vegan frosties.

7.    All of the berries in the Pacific Northwest.

Products (and Services) I Love

8.      Portland Children’s Museum – a perfect place to spend an unexpectedly sweltering afternoon.

9.      Temple Fine Coffee and Teathe S Street location is the best place for meetings and reading.

10.     It’s All Yoga to-go! – aren’t in Sacramento? Can’t make it to the studio for some reason? No problem! Classes are on your computer.


So what are you loving lately? I’m always on the lookout for what is delicious in food, drink, fashion, and life. Leave me your favorites in the comments or write a post of your own and link back here.

What Do You Suck At?

Recently Danielle LaPorte asked the The Burning Question, “What do you suck at?”

I decided to answer.

{photo credit: Girlnamedjim in WikiCommons}


Paperwork of all kinds. Especially at work. For this reason, I could never be a Special Ed teacher.

Organization of paperwork I suck at. If it isn’t electronic, I don’t know where it is. Remember how I warned you about my paperwork issue?

Going to bed as soon as I am tired. Why do I resist the sleep? Probably because I want a couple of kid free hours a day.

Leaving the house when I need some mama alone time. Instead I hear “Mama. Mama. Mama.” from the other side of whichever door I am behind.

Going to the bank. Depositing checks is the absolute worst.

Pretending to care about stuff I don’t care about. I think I learned this from my students.

Keeping my opinions and thoughts to myself. I have always been outspoken. It’s like a truth compulsion.

Not rolling my eyes when stupid things are said in my presence. It’s an embarrassing hold over from my teen years.

Talking on the phone. Please don’t take it personally if I don’t call you, I don’t call anyone.

Remembering to check my phone for messages. Or knowing the location of said phone.

Putting my dishes in the dishwasher. The hubs especially hates this one.

Wearing uncomfortable shoes and clothes in the name of fashion. Or any other reason. If I didn’t do this at 22, I am surely not at 42.

Letting other people drive. Unless we are in an unfamiliar place, then I suck at driving.

Doing stuff I don’t want to do. Last child in me or what?

Buying stuff because other people have stuff. F the Joneses.

Letting my baby cry. As far as I can tell, she is just sending me a message with her limited vocabulary.

Not reading multiple books at a time. How will I ever read everything I want to read if I don’t always have lots of books going at once?

Not aspirational home goods shopping. Oh how I love to waste money at IKEA I do like to buy house things to make life better and then never use them. I am getting better at this and recently if I haven’t used item within a couple weeks, I have been returning stuff.

Bartering prices on used items. This kills me. I get all weird and tongue tied.

Washing my face before I go to bed. While Ruby’s nighttime routine is a well-oiled machine, mine has gotten a bit lazy.

But enough about me. What about you? What do you suck at?

43 Things You Probably Don’t Know About Me

1.     I check the weather of places where my nearest and dearest live every day. It gives me a moment to think of each one and how they might be spending their day.

In case you are wondering, the cities checked are:

New York Mills, Minnesota

El Paso, Texas

Chesterfield, England

Portland, Oregon

Tainan City, Taiwan

Sacramento, Oakland, San Fransisco, El Sobrante, Pioneer and Boonville, California.

2.     My favorite Pandora stations (other than Rhett Miller and Old 97s): Freedom ’90 – George Michael and Raffi.

3.      I always have multiple games of WWF going with V3 and the husband. I have been playing the same random stranger since my very first game 2 years ago. He taught me almost everything I know by slaughtering me every game for a year.

4.     In addition to dairy, I am wildly allergic to shellfish and melon. Yes, it is really hard to find something I can eat in most restaurants. There is cheese everywhere!

5.      I despise bananas and being invited to people’s houses to eat is really stressful. I don’t want to be any trouble and yet here’s my gigantic list of food allergies.

6.     Son Volt’s Trace is my favorite road trip sing along music. Followed very closely by The Byrds Sweetheart of the Rodeo, Wreck Your Life and Too Far To Care by Old 97s.

7.     I covet other people’s swimming pools and dogs, but really don’t want my own because of the maintenance. Plus those things truly make you a grown up.

8.     You can almost always find some sort of allergen free snack in my purse.

9.     I hate sleeping in a house alone. Apparently I still think there is a Boogeyman.

10.     Ever since switching Ruby to a back carry, I have secretly enjoyed the puzzled looks on strangers’ faces as I walk through Target looking like I am talking to myself.

11.     It took me a long time to really enjoy restorative yoga and now I am on a quest to make up for lost time. Why did I make everything so hard?

12.     Airports are one of my happy places. I love going bye-bye! Other happy places include: in my daughter’s arms, in the presence of Redwood trees, being snuggled by my sweetheart, on my yoga mat and at the ocean.

13.     Teaching feels like home. I am so grateful to be able to help people and support my family by doing something I love.

14.     Seeing my friends with their parents and siblings makes me very happy and makes me feel less alone. Everyone’s family is nutty!

15.     I briefly thought about studying to be a librarian but decided against it because the library world was in transition from card catalogs to computer systems and programs were closing all over the US. Plus I needed a J-O-B.

16.     Funeral director was the number one career that came up in every aptitude test I took in college.

17.      I volunteered and worked in reproductive politics for almost a decade.

18.      I am against the death penalty. Have been since I was a child. And yes, I have thought about it. A lot.

19.     I am very intrigued by glamping and would possibly give up my anti-camping stance if someone took me under their wing. A camping mentor perhaps?

20.     I miss my 20s, but am so much happier and self-aware/at peace in my 40s.

21.     At age 20 I had bunions removed from the little toe sides of both feet and beginnings of hammertoes corrected. The result? No more foot pain, second toes which do not bend, and an expensive comfortable shoe wardrobe.

22.      I am so thankful the Internet wasn’t widely used in my 20s so I don’t have to cringe at my stupidity being documented forever. You really had to be there to enjoy it.

23.     Listening to Jack Kornfield’s Beginner’s Guide To Forgiveness changes my life with each listen. So much wisdom.

24.     Loving the learning process hasn’t come easily for me. As a child I didn’t really learn to learn – ie break down problems into smaller steps and work hard and use failure as a teacher – I either got something or I quit. Turns out this is common for children, especially girls, labeled “bright”. Who knew giving what you think of as a compliment, could stunt the learning process?

25.     My husband and I were acquainted in high school and share mutual friends and memories from that era. It is so nice not to have to explain ElSob#1.

26.     Many people I have met online I absolutely adore. I thank my lucky stars Rhett Miller introduced me to Twitter, JojosUK introduced me to Facebook and Michelle introduced me to blogging.

27.     My feet are so ticklish it almost kills me to get a pedicure.

28.     My hair stylist (one if my BFFs) is completely responsible for anything awesome going on with my hair. I just sit in the chair and let her work her magic. She’s the trained professional and I have zero idea what looks good until I see it.

29.     Once I decide I like you, you are totally stuck with me.

30.     At 42 I am finally starting to forget some things. Prior to losing brain cells from so much time online and aging, I could pretty much remember ever name, face and birth date of every single person I ever met. It was weird. And kind of awesome.

31.     My best learning comes from watching pros demonstrate a couple times and being able to ask a couple questions. I see, I do, I got it. Give me written directions? Forget about it.

32.     In 5th grade one of my teachers referred to me as charismatic. When I asked what that meant she told me that people can’t help but like me even if they didn’t want to.

I understood that as I bugged her, but she couldn’t help but like me. Or it bugged her that other people liked me when she didn’t.

33.     Spending an entire day reading is one of my favorite activities. Finding a café in a new city and spending a day reading and people watching is my idea of heaven. Way better than sight seeing.

34.     Coffee is wrong according to my taste buds.

35.     I started wearing glasses daily the first day of college because I decided learning was more important than vanity.

36.     I briefly participated in a contact lens study and decided glasses were for me after all. Turns out boys do make passes at girls who wear glasses and they are the kind of boys I like.

37.     If the word simplicity is attached to something, I have probably read it and applied it to my life.

38.     Napping with Ruby is a reminder to me to slow down and rest every day.

39.     Nothing makes my heart sing quite like Ruby running toward me laughing and wanting me to pick her up. We got the right baby.

40.     When facing a potentially unpleasant situation, I always try to remember the motto, “If it can’t be fun, it better be funny.”

41.     It took me a long time to catch on that every yoga class ends with Savasana. Imagine how delighted I was when I finally figured it out!

42.    My first concert was the Police Ghost In the Machine Tour 1983. It changed my life and made me a life long live music lover. I still listen to music like I’m 13.

43.     A friend I didn’t know read anything I’d ever written declared that I am a good writer. Best compliment I ever received – unexpected and completely appreciated. It blew me away.

Now you, what are some little known nuggets about you? Leave a comment or write a post of your own and link back here.

Best Decisions of My Adult Life

{source: we heart it}

Holly and Amy recently posted their best decisions and I’ve decided to join in as well.

Best Decisions of My Adult Life

1.     Adoption.

When it is all said and done, I’m thrilled with how we decided to build our family.

Was it a giant paperwork pain? Yes.

Did it take way longer than anyone anticipated? Yes.

Did the process potentially take years off my life? Yes.

Lesson learned:  we now have our Ruby.

Also see: Totally worth the wait.

{Interested in learning more about our adoption?}

2.     Moving far enough away from home it required getting on a plane to see friends and family.

I am lucky enough to count some friends as way back as elementary school. People I have been in contact with since elementary school ie not Facebook friends. So when I decided to move a plane ride away, it was a big deal for me. I loved my peeps and wasn’t sure about why I needed more.

Making friends as an adult without the benefit of being a student and before the internet was widely used (aka the early 90s) was hard at first. I was lonely for the first time in my life which made me bitter at first, but then a wonderful thing happened.

I started doing activities that I really liked (after a serious brain storming session about what I really liked doing) and lo and behold, I met people I liked and had a ton in common with. In fact, almost 15 years later, I count these women as some of my closest friends.

Lesson learned: If I’d never left the nest, I would have never met these lovelies.

3.     Changing my career in (gasp!) my 30s.

If I had a nickel for every time I heard someone say they are too old to make a change because they’ll be xx age when they finish the training, I’d be a rich woman and could retire from teaching. (And then spend my days volunteering in the classroom).

I spent all of my 20s and the first part of my 30s hopping from job to job in a field in which I had studied and was determined to succeed in. And you know what? I was miserable about 85% of that time. But like most people who are scared to death of making change, I wavered because “I’d already invested so much time”.

Lesson learned: If you are staying in a situation (job, career, marriage, relationship whatever) only because of the time you’ve invested, GET OUT. Change is hard, but not changing will kill your spirit.

4.     Marrying my dude.

Turns out, marriage is different from living together.

Who knew?

So glad I got to find this out. He’s such a keeper. Love him. We really are family now.

Lesson learned: Some things can’t be explained, you have to experience them for yourself.

5.     Yoga.

What can I say? It has totally changed my life. Sounds cliché, but there you have it. Since actively practicing on and off the mat seriously for almost five years, I am finally at peace more often than not.

True story: as a kid I wanted exactly 2 things – 1) never to work full-time because that was for suckers and 2) to find inner peace.

Lesson learned: Living in the moment beats living in the past and the future. Yoga helps me remember to stay present.

6.     Sticking with my blog after yoga teacher training finished. 

I have made so many new friends through this crazy thing. Truly unbelievable.

Lesson learned: Putting yourself out there opens up your life and your heart to new lovely people.

7.     Returning to therapy after Ruby came home and finally trying EMDR.

Parenting has brought up a lot of issues I wasn’t even aware I had and I’m glad to know when I need help. In the last few months I’ve been able to make some serious progress and feel like some things are getting resolved.

Lesson learned: Life is a work in progress. Don’t be afraid to ask for help when you need it.

8.     To get/stay out of debt.

Early in my adult life I had a hard time saying no to myself. I believed if I had enough striped t-shirts, life would magically be better. Turns out you can get yourself in quite a bit of debt buying t-shirts and end up pretty unhappy. Reading It’s Your Money or Your Life and learning to live well on less has made me a much happier and relaxed grown up.

Lesson learned: You can’t buy happiness. If you don’t have it, don’t spend it.


What are your best decisions? Share in the comments or write a post of your own and be sure to link back here.

What I’m Loving This Birthday Week

Have I ever mentioned how much I love my birthday? I do. It’s the only day I ever feel completely at ease with satisfying my every desire.

I’ve been enjoying a low-key celebration all week with meals out, swing time with baby girl, long talks with friends and a cocktail or two.

I’m loving this week:

Ruby is ours forever!

Finding Ruby’s court dress on super sale.

Birthday wishes in person, online and via phone.

Seeing my friends with my kid warms my heart in a way that brings tears to my eyes.

Books, books, books – themes: simple living with kids and educational travel.

A new Kindle Fire (thanks, sweetheart!) – so excited about having yet another option for reading. Now I just need to figure out how to get the library offerings.

Therapeutic therapy sessions – lately I’ve been making some serious progress and it feels like slogging through the yuck is for a good reason.

Ruby’s laugh.

Melissa’s visit.

My new haircut from Tari at Parlour by the Park.

Ruby kisses.

Amy is home from NYC and Paris and we have a date to talk about it!

Surprise bags full of baby clothes – thank you Lena and Yuliya!

Pandora’s Outlaw Country station.

A massage scheduled for this afternoon.

Plans to see Rhett Miller and the Serial Lady Killers in SF in June.

Spring Break is right around the corner.

What’s making you happy this week?

Please, Introduce Yourself

Apparently there is a thing going around because Katy at the Non-Consumer Advocate is having the same issue as I am. So many visitors and yet, so few comments. Katy came up with this introductions post and I thought it was such a great idea, I’ve decided to do it here as well.

I am Tami. I live in Sacramento,California with my 14 month old daughter, Ruby and my husband, Jed. I’m on parental leave from my third grade teaching job to take care of Ruby. I also teach restorative yoga at It’s All Yoga on the first Sundays of the month. I first found yoga in my late 20’s, but didn’t start really practicing in a meaningful way {ie not just as exercise} until my mid-30’s.

I also came to teaching later – at 33 – I entered my credential program and landed my first teaching job the following summer. Part of the reason I found a quieter and kinder yoga practice is because I was burning myself out on teaching. I needed to find a way to help me relax enough to enjoy the career I finally loved.

Obviously I have a blog, you are reading it right now. I read about a gazillion other blogs daily while Ruby sleeps on my chest, so if you’d like a new reader, please be sure to include a link. My tastes are all over the board, I like: minimalist lifestyle blogs, fashion/body image blogs, yoga blogs, life (versus lifestyle) blogs. Some of my favorites are Pink of PerfectionYes and YesJust A Titch, Non-Consumer Advocate. I’d love to hear about your favorites, so tell me what you love to read.

I’m always looking for post ideas, so please don’t be shy about what you like and what you don’t. Some of my most popular posts have come from suggestions from readers, so I’m all ears.

I’m always slightly confused when someone I’m talking to refers to something I’ve written about that they haven’t left a comment on because I have no idea who reads and who doesn’t. PS – it’s thrilling, but momentarily confusing, so be sure to come out of the lurking closet so I don’t feel like I’m talking to myself and I don’t have to wonder if you are reading my thoughts from my head or the internet.

Now your turn!

  • Where do you live?
  • Are you a life long yogi or teacher or did you come to it later in life?
  • Do you have a blog? If so, please tell me a little bit about it and include a link!
  • What posts on Teacher Goes Back to School do you like, and which ones bore you to tears?
  • Do you know me, if so how?
  • And anything else you wish to share.

Yeah So, 2011


Friends, December is over and I’m feeling all lovey toward the new year so decided to reflect a bit on 2011. Plus I saw these questions answered on Nothing But Bonfires and felt inspired.

What did you do in 2011 that you’d never done before?

I became a mama.

 Did you keep your new year’s resolutions, and will you make more for next year?

I did not. I think I am over resolutions at this point and have decided to try to add new habits as needed rather than trying (and failing again) to do a bunch of new things in January. Most years I am so well-behaved in January that I completely give up in February. The good news is I finally saw this pattern and can knock it off already.

 Did anyone close to you give birth?

Yes and we’ve been so busy learning how to be parents we haven’t met him yet.

Did anyone close to you die?

No, thankfully.

What countries did you visit?

Taiwan! In the US we spent a bunch of time in the Bay Area this summer and we were lucky to spend some vacation time in Jenner on the coast.

What would you like to have in 2012 that you lacked in 2011?

My ability to concentrate diminished at an alarming rate, so if someone could share a bit of that I’d truly appreciate it.

What dates from 2011 will remain etched upon your memory, and why?

May 9th – we met Ruby on paper.

July 11th – we got first decree.

October 3rd – we met The Ru for the first time.

What was your biggest failure?

Managing my stress about the unknown.

Did you suffer illness or injury?

A minor cold or two – a minor miracle! Plus there was that time I ate a whole box of Joe Joe’s and had to stay in bed for a day because I poisoned myself with all that sugar.

What was the best thing you bought?

A tie between our Ergo baby carrier and the sound machine we use to help Ruby sleep.

 Where did most of your money go?

Adoption. Oh my goodness. Expensive.

What did you get really excited about?

Besides, Ruby?

Old 97’s playing in Sacramento.


What song will always remind you of 2011?

Why is this so hard? How about what did I listen to a lot in 2011?

Answer: Big Star

Compared to this time last year, are you happier or sadder? Thinner or fatter?Richer or poorer?


Thinner. Only just.

Financially poorer. Although not nearly as much as I thought I would be thanks to the kindness of friends, family and even strangers.

Life richer.

What do you wish you’d done more of?

Chilled out. Trusted the process. Yoga. Slept soundly.

What do you wish you’d done less of?

Worry. Good god, the anxiety about becoming a parent almost killed me.

How did you spend Christmas?

Christmas Eve we went to the zoo with the rest of Sacramento, took naps and ate pork chops with stuffing.

Christmas Day we chilled at home and then walked to Tari’s for a cocktail. We capped the day off with a speaker phone chat with Grandma and Grandpa in Minnesota.

What was your favorite TV program?

We started watching Modern Family season 1 – a sitcom that is actually funny!

Dexter – have I ever mentioned how I wish I would have thought of this?

I love any kind of home staging show. Watching people pack up their stuff and clean until it sparkles almost inspires me to do the same.

What were your favorite books of the year?

Not going to lie: What to Expect The First Year, Good Night Gorilla, and Happiest Baby on the Block.

What was your favorite music from this year?

Try not to be surprised – Old 97’s Grand Theater Volume 1 and 2.

What were your favorite films of the year?

Midnight In Paris

What did you do on your birthday, and how old were you?

Went to dinner with friends at Magpie and I turned 41.

What one thing would have made your year immeasurably more satisfying?

Feeling more confident in becoming a parent.

How would you describe your personal fashion concept in 2011?

Are jeans and t-shirts a personal fashion concept?

What kept you sane?

Yoga and my wonderful friends.

Tell us a valuable life lesson you learned in 2011.

Babies are only babies for a little while so chill out about moving at their pace for a while.


Want to play along? Either answer here in the comments or do a post of your own and link back here. I can’t wait to hear about your 2011.

My Favorite Things! {Like Oprah and Sarah Von}

Sarah Von from Yes and Yes published her Favorite Things à la Oprah and I was inspired. Not a gift guide, but rather a list of products that make her life better.

While you’re checking out Sarah’s list be sure to hop over to Jezebel’s Worth It feature and see more about products that work for them.

TGBTS’s Favorite Things

Dawn simulating alarm clock completely changed my relationship with morning. At $120 it is not cheap, but my first one lasted more than 10 years and made me a better person. Totally worth it if you ask me.

Hugger Mugger Standard Bolster – in Golden Leaf.  Perfect for restorative yoga. This baby sits on my bed and gets used almost daily. Sometimes I use it to sit, sometimes to sleep, sometimes for a 30 minute Savasana. Another product that has changed my life. Again, a bit pricey at $82, but totally worth it.

Book light has become one of my use it everyday items. I’m not sure I can remember life without it. I got mine in the book section of my local Target for less than $8. No wonder why I am getting so much reading done while Ruby sleeps.

Aroma therapy rice bag I made by tossing in a pound of long grain rice, whole cloves, cardamom pods, cloves and cinnamon sticks into a pillow case and tying the end {I don’t sew and I’m fancy that way}. I microwave it for 3-5 minutes and use it as a bed warmer, sore back soother and all around comfort delivery system.

What are your can’t live without items?

Black Friday or Buy Nothing Day?

That is the question.

Are you someone who is so thrilled by the hunt of a bargain you are willing to face the crowds on the busiest shopping day of the year?

Or are you someone who beleives the world is driven into ruin by overconsumption and would rather not risk life and limb for a new electronic gadget?

I can’t help but wonder if there is a middle category of people. Like the ones who love a bargain {on stuff they really want/need} AND can not be bothered to shop pretty much ever?

If that third category exists I think I’m in it.

I’m pretty sure you’d have to put a gun to my head to shop on Black Friday.

Miss Minimalist offers some suggestions for a White Friday instead.

Parenthacks offers suggestions for Clutter-free Gifts and How To Shorten Your Holiday Gift List


So tell me – how do you handle your holiday shopping?


A Pain In the Back

source: google images

Yep, that’s pretty much me today.

A couple weeks ago, the pain was between my shoulder blades.

I’m alternating ice and heat. I went to the steam, sauna, soak today.

Massage is scheduled for tomorrow, but man, this sucks.

Pretty sure I’ve got new-baby-back-pain-itis. Or something of the sort.

Have any back advice?

What is your favorite back pain remedy?

Fall Swap Asana!

Women of Sacramento – Swap Asana {It’s All Yoga’s twice yearly clothing swap} is THIS SATURDAY!

Who: You, me, other awesome women looking for new-to-us wardrobe pieces

Admission: $5 and 1 piece of clothing gets you in. Take home all you like. Donations and unclaimed items go to WEAVE.

What: Clothing swap – gently used women’s clothes, shoes, accessories

When: Saturday, November 12th 2-4pm

Where: It’s All Yoga – 21st and X Streets – Sacramento, CA

Will you be there? EVERY size will be represented, so come on out.

Things I Hate…

Lots of folks these days are sharing what they love at this moment. Not feeling it today. So instead you get my current bitch list and I invite you add your own list.

1. Bad music which everyone seems to love except me. See: Train, John Mayer, Katy Perry. {heel of hand squarely to forehead}… Oh my god, people, please stop. I would like to listen to the radio again some day. Don’t make me become even more of an NPR nerd or community radio snob.

2. Boobs, boobs, boobs. Ladies, please when in public, keep the girls dressed. Is it really necessary to put on your mascara with just a towel around your waist? Allergic to your shirt? Get ready at home. Also included: too much cleavage when you do finally get dressed.

3. Locker room surprises. Hey lady wrapped in a tiny gym towel, please DO NOT BEND OVER.

4. Crying at the silliest little things. Little tiny red gingham shirt? Check. Adorable mini red double-breasted coat? Check. A hand-me-down wooden rocking horse from a neighbor kid now called “Big Ruby” ? Check.

5. Loud grunting noises from someone’s boyfriend in the weight room. Dude, save it for the bedroom. And while we’re talking, can you stop staring at yourself in the mirror and hogging all the machines?

6. Endless Sun Salutations in yoga class. Honestly, I’m thinking you didn’t want to plan your class and you just want to wear us out. It’s been a while since I’ve been tortured by relentless salutations {thank you IAY’s fabulous “peak pose” planners}, but if this is you and you think you are fooling anyone, you are not.

7. Petty thievery. Did I mention someone stole one of our dining room chairs? Yes, it was on our front porch, but come on. One?

8. Dairy. It is found in most things I would like to eat. Not the over the top slathered in cheese or creamy sauce {although I’m still not against those things}, but in sneaky places like bread, marinara sauce, and other foods you’d think would be cow juice free. Thank god for food labels.

9. My inability to complete a thought or project. Enough said.

Now you. What’s twisting your panties today?