Best Break Up Album of All Time: You Decide

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Three things happened recently that made me think of the worst break up of my life.

The first is deciding to attend my 25th high school reunion this weekend.

What?

I know. I don’t even know how that happened.

Just know this decision has my brain is all awash in high school memories and with that memories of my first long term (8.5 years!) relationship. While we didn’t attend the same high school, going back in time got me thinking a lot about that particular break up.

The second was reading Rosie’s post Getting Over Heartbreak: A Primer. I wish I’d had this when I was getting over that relationship. My intuition helped me get through using most of the ten steps, but it sure would have been nice to have them all together right in front of my face.

My favorite tip: minimize exposure. I’m even quoted!

As Tami says, “call your girlfriends instead of calling him. unfriend on fb, take his number out of your phone.  If you are still dying from pain after 6 months of no contact, maybe talk then.”

The last was catching Alanis Morrisette’s “You Learn” on the way to the pool the other night. I was brought back to a moment in time when in the summer of 1995 four twenty-something women, two British and two American, were unabashedly singing out loud every word to every song of Jagged Little Pill over drinks at a casual dinner party and the conversation that happened as a result.

And this got me thinking about break up albums. Is Jagged Little Pill everyone’s break up album or are there other records that help people move on from heartbreak?

You tell me. What’s the most played heartbreak record in your life?

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Phone image source: by NeatoVintage on Etsy

Jagged Little Pill Image Source: wikipedia

Ten Things I Loved In February 2013

For the last few months I have been doing these reflection posts after being inspired by Rosie’s. Taking time each month to reflect on the good things that happen each day/week/month has done wonders for my ability to actually stop and notice the good stuff.

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Ten Things I Loved In February

Things I/We Did

1.      Day trips to the Bay Area. When seasonal allergies are killing you, why not just get the hell out of dodge? We visited with friends, ate dim sum, watched dogs playing at the dog park and generally avoided all the trees I am allergic to in Sacramento. Bliss.

2.      Reached out for help when I needed it. Friends rallied and my doctor kindly reminded me how much nasal spray allergy medicine is my friend.

3.     Brunched at home. Steel cut oats with all the fixins with some of my favorite local yoga ladies. Seriously, if you have a kid (or are otherwise busy most evenings) I highly recommend having friends over for breakfast. It is a great way to connect and share a meal at a non traditional meeting time so more people are available.

4.    Published my HIRE ME page. Hello, universe! And just like that, people contacted me to work with them on exciting projects. More on this to come later!

5.     Advocated for myself in a way that felt authentic and true. I can’t share on what yet, just know I made myself proud.

6.     Visited the quiet and remembered it is hard and scary. And worth it.

Products and Services I Dug:

7.     Schroeder’s Shoes Repair –You know when you get such great customer service it brings a smile to your lips and a tear to your eye? This is that place. I brought two pairs of Mary Janes in with strap issues and he fixed one pair while I was standing there (for free) and did an excellent job fixing the other for $5. Please keep this guy in business and bring all your shoes here to be repaired.

On The Bookshelf 

7.      Bringing Up Bebe by Pamela Druckerman. I reviewed it here.

8.     Beautiful You: A Daily Guide To Radical Self-Acceptance by Rosie Molinary. READ IT. So we can talk about it!

9.    The Five Love Languages: The Secret to Love that Lasts by Gary Chapman. – Oh my. Oprah and Gretchen Rubin both mentioned this title and I thought I’d give it a chance. Turned out to be a quick read and left me wanting all my friends and loved ones to read it so they could tell me their love language. I’m a Words of Affirmation with an Acts of Service chaser. Do you know your love language? Have you read this book? Did the “love tank” language make you giggle out loud every.single.time. you read it? Or was that just me?

Warning: at the very end, the author lets the reader in that he’s super Christian. Since this came as news to me, I thought I’d let the cat out of the bag in case this sort of thing also surprises you.

10.     I Want to Apologize to Every Teacher I Ever Had by Tony Danza. Did you all know Tony Danza, from Taxi and Who’s the Boss? fame, taught high school for a year and had a reality show about it? If so, why didn’t you tell me? I read this book in about a day and a half. It was charming and quite frankly, he said a lot of things teachers like to hear.

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So what are you loving lately? I’m always on the lookout for what is delicious in food, drink, fashion, and life. Leave me your favorites in the comments or write a post of your own and link back here.

Image Source:  LOVE mirror by Oxley Woods Photos on Flickr (cc)

Currently…

Loving:     Watching my beautiful child nap in the car and parking outside of Temple to use their wifi.  Oh the sweet, gentle nap time. So much better than the frustrating last few weeks of nap resistance and mama yelling. And just a few days ago, I was worried that this was becoming a thing and now I’m a peace with it.

Oh time (and perspective), I love you.

Watching:     MarieTV. I love getting videos each Tuesday. Marie teaches how to create a business and life to love. Funny and helpful. Every single week.

Reading:     Beautiful You: A Daily Guide to Radical Self-Acceptance, Hunger Games (because I try to stay ahead of the trends), and The Happiest Toddler on the Block.

What can I say? I have a lot of reading needs.

Anticipating:     A trip to see Rhett Miller play in SF in March!

Listening To:     Tara Brach’s “Finding True Refuge“.

Planning:     My birthday party. I know it is still more than 2 months away, but still.

Working On:     The plan for next school year and my return to the classroom.

Wishing:     I could stay up past 9 pm.

What about you? What are you currently…?

Thank you, Gina, for the post inspiration!

Image source: We Heart It

Ten Things I Loved In November

Taking time each month to reflect on the good stuff has done wonders for my ability to actually stop and notice the good stuff. I’m truly thankful for Rosie’s inspiration.

Ten Things I Loved In November

Things I/We Did

1.      Voted. Since the election is over, we can now start answering our phone again. Yes, we still have a land line and we are the only living humans without caller ID, so you understand why this is so exciting. I’m also really happy with the outcome of the election and feel pretty damn good about the people in my Facebook feed. Hardly a reason to defriend anyone.

cutest ballot holder ever

2.      Draped over a bolster for hours at a time at the One Day Emotional Restoration Retreat with Michelle at It’s All Yoga.  Laying down for a couple hours, without sleeping, fully supported by props? Totally underrated. People, get yourselves to a restorative yoga class STAT!

pausing is good.

3.     FairyTale Town – Built in the 50’s, the play areas are metal and pointy and not at all what I expected. I think I liked it more than the kid, so we’ll definitely be going back.

4.    Embraced the leaves changing.

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5.     Visited the redwoods in our backyard at the UC Davis Arboretum. Holy moly tree huggers! These redwoods ground me in a way I never thought possible or at least thought was reserved only for the ocean. I’m glad I’ve decided to embrace nature instead of bourbon.

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6.    Introduced Ruby to the chickens who roam free in Fair OaksTo be honest, I just really needed a change of playground scenery and deciding to visit the chickens was a pretty easy choice. A 20 minute drive from home and some serious laughs. Little girl was perplexed by their very existence. It cracked me up because a lot of the chickens were taller than her.

chickens are king!

7.    Celebrated Thanksgiving on Wednesday instead of Thursday. Dude, talk about taking the pressure off. I highly recommend it for the holiday avoidant.

On The Plate

8.     Mandarin pineapple smoothie {3 seedless mandarins, a bunch of frozen pineapple chunks and a container or plain soy yogurt in the blender with a touch of honey.}

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9.     Polenta with marinara, olives, spinach, artichoke hearts and Daiya.

On The Bookshelf 

10.      Daring Greatly by Brene Brown

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So what are you loving lately? I’m always on the lookout for what is delicious in food, drink, fashion, and life. Leave me your favorites in the comments or write a post of your own and link back here.

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My friend, Rosie Molinary, made a list and I loved hers so much I stole her idea. Now I’ve been inspired to pause and notice the good stuff each month.

Ten Things I Loved In September

My friend, Rosie Molinary, made a list and I loved hers so much I stole her idea. Now I’ve been inspired to pause and notice the good stuff each month.

Ten Things I Loved In September

Things I/We Did

1.      Old 97’s Too Far To Care Tour

My favorite band playing my favorite album start to finish in one of my favorite cities in the world? YES, please!

Seriously, one of the best shows of my life.

Imagine orange cowboy boots, Maker’s Mark up, and very, very loud singing along. Oh and the in-between-song hopping up and down in anticipation of the NEXT.FAVORITE.SONG!

Old97s know how to take care of their fans. For years, my girlfriends have talked about how “wouldn’t it be great if the 97s played TFTC at a show? Like, the whole thing?”

True story.

Dreams do come true.

-Thanks to fellow superfan/photographer, Lori Hillhouse of I’ll Show You My Four Leaf Clover, for the photo.

2.      I started teaching a WEEKLY restorative class at It’s All Yoga – Tuesdays, 7:15-8:30.

You should come. It’ll be fun.

Seriously, even if you aren’t in Sacramento or haven’t ever tried restorative yoga, you can do this pose (Viparita Karani or Legs-Up-The-Wall) for ten minutes and you will feel so much better than you do right now.

Check here for potential health considerations.

3.     I went to the movies! In the theater! Again! This time with a friend!

4.    We went to a swimming pool party at our friends new house. So happy to have even more friends close by.

5.     I taught a class for Sacramento Free Day of YogaSo awesome to meet so many new people. Labor Day Monday – get it on your calendar now for next year.

On The Plate

6.     Fat Face strawberry coconut popsicle. 

7.    Sweet potato black bean stew.

September, in a nutshell – too hot not to eat frozen treats, but the calendar says fall and so we eat fall food.

Products (and Services) I Love

8.      Evernote. It is changing my life by letting me organized in one place.

9.      Pinterest. Meal planning just got ridiculously easy by dropping pins in my Evernote file.

10.     Emailing with my doctor. So efficient!

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So what are you loving lately? I’m always on the lookout for what is delicious in food, drink, fashion, and life. Leave me your favorites in the comments or write a post of your own and link back here.

Ten Things I Loved In August

My friend, Rosie Molinary, made a list and I loved hers so much I stole her idea. Now I’ve been inspired to pause and notice the good stuff each month.

Ten Things I Loved In August

Things I/We Did

1.      Portland. I love you. Not in a want to move back way, but in a really happy I used to live there way and I’m super happy some of my bestie besties live there way.

2.      We saw a movie! Together! In the theater! For the first time in way more than a year!

3.     It’s All Yoga photo shoot. I love these people. Click the picture for more fun times.

4.    Celebrated 17 years of awesome togetherness.

5.     Duran Duran Appreciation Day.

On The Plate

6.     Vegan frosties.

7.    All of the berries in the Pacific Northwest.

Products (and Services) I Love

8.      Portland Children’s Museum – a perfect place to spend an unexpectedly sweltering afternoon.

9.      Temple Fine Coffee and Teathe S Street location is the best place for meetings and reading.

10.     It’s All Yoga to-go! – aren’t in Sacramento? Can’t make it to the studio for some reason? No problem! Classes are on your computer.

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So what are you loving lately? I’m always on the lookout for what is delicious in food, drink, fashion, and life. Leave me your favorites in the comments or write a post of your own and link back here.