Don’t Take It Personally and Other New {School} Year Resolutions

New years just beg for resolutions in my opinion. Since my brain works on the school year calendar, new years start in the fall. By January I’m all resolutioned out.

Last {working} school year, my mantra/resolution/intention was to Not Take It Personally. This pretty much changed everything about my life.

In my quest to not take things personally, I managed to listen more than I talked, I quieted down, really listened and let other people be the expert (pretty major for a know-it-all like me) and I let go of things that weren’t working for me.

Work relationships got easier, parent interactions (something I struggled with in the past) were more clear, professional and well, easier.  Even my personal life felt lighter and more fun.

Since school just started in this house, I’ve been recently thinking about what my intention for this school year will be. I know I’m not in the classroom, so why have one? To be honest, since I’ve started having an intention for the school year my professional life has greatly improved in the areas where I put my focus. Plus  I’m already thinking about next school year and I’m getting a bit anxious.

Where will I be teaching?

What will I be teaching?

Who will I be teaching?

Will I secure a job share?

Where will Ruby spend her time while I’m at work?

See what I mean? So many unanswered questions with so many possible answers. So many, in fact, I’m not quite sure how to wrap my brain around all the possibilities and all these loose ends are already making me tighten and grasp and grab at answers. I don’t know about you, but I’m sure my best decisions are not made while totally stressing about the outcome.

So, what’s a teacher/planner/mama/not-so-secret-control-freak to do?

I’ve decided my intention for this school year is to say yes.

For me,

  • Saying yes means I am open to all the possibilities, even the ones I am not sure exist yet.
  • Saying yes, means not having to know right now what will happen next school year (or even next week).
  • Saying yes means not getting mired in the details and letting the unknown suck the fun out of life right now.
  • Saying yes means finding ease instead of grabbing, grasping and holding.


So, friends, how do you handle the big unknowns in your life?

Do you make resolutions or set intentions during times of transitions?

Do you have any words of wisdom for a current stay-at-home-mama needing to send her bebe to childcare in the relatively near future?


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In Case You Missed It Edition! Volume 35 – Magic, Faith and Pants That Fit, Damnit


I’ve found some links to posts that made me laugh, cry, think or at least raise an eyebrow. Please click the links and check out the posts. You may find something that rocks your world too.

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My Best Of…

It’s Not You, It’s The Clothes – If you read nothing else ever again, please read this post by Sally at Already Pretty. It will change your life. Yes, I’m being dramatic. The message is spot on. Write it on your hand next time you go clothes shopping.

There’s Magic There, If We Make It – Sarah from Pink of Perfection has a serious way with words. I’m so happy she is back from her trip and back posting again. This post made me laugh, tear up and feel motivated to be present in the moment.

On Faith – Amy’s personal post on wanting a spiritual home really hit a nerve with me. I, too, have in the last few years been thinking about taking care of my spiritual health and well-being. I’ve mostly been doing it on the yoga mat, however she may be on to something here. For a little background on my feelings on religion.

40 Hours That Are Critical To Your Health and Well Being – Did I ever tell you all about the one where I was so ridiculously ill-suited for my career I was losing handfuls of hair, had an awesome case of acne and chronic tummy troubles?  It wasn’t pretty, so while I understand changing jobs is truly difficult, in some cases, it is absolutely necessary.

Let’s Start With The ABC’s of It – Jennifer Is A Work In Progress participated in the ABC’s of You. Go check out her post and say hi.

How To Make A Good First Impression – they had me at “Stop talking”. Man, I wish someone would have told me earlier in life that listening is way more important than trying to show how smart I am with my incessant chatter. Good to know…. helped a lot with my own personal new school year resolution from last year. Listening is good.


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Loosening The White-Knuckled Grip and Finding A Little More Peace Along The Way

Prompt: Let Go. What (or whom) did you let go of this year? Why?


A short list of what I’ve let go of this year:

My ego.


My regularly scheduled life.

Why did I let go so much?

It just wasn’t working anymore.

Or ever, really.

To be honest, I was tired.

Tired of fighting every single battle in the world. I was tired of the constant struggle of trying to be in control. I was tired of learning the same lessons -over and over again.

The experience of loosening up my grip on everything has been nothing short of revolutionary. I feel lighter and less anxious. My connections are more heart felt and to be honest, scary. I feel vulnerable. Not in the oh-my-god it’s so scary way, but in the let’s try it this way and wow the level of kindness is awe inspiring.


Is there something in your life that is no longer useful to you – an old story, an outdated belief, a pair of shoes? Can you let it go?

Author: Alice Bradley
Let’s Panic About Babies