Recently I checked in on my wellness prescription to see how well I’ve been taking care of myself and I noticed a couple of areas where I have been falling short.
Rather than beating myself up (as I would have before I found a self-compassion practice), I did a little investigation to get to the bottom of it.
What are the obstacles that are getting in the way of practicing good self-care?
Problem #1: Not drinking enough water.
I did a little self-inquiry and kindly asked myself – why aren’t you doing this?
Answer: I hate cleaning up all the water when my cup gets knocked over.
Solution: Buy a lid with a straw for my cup to prevent spills.
Problem #2: I am super grumpy 3 hours after I wake up and for some reason I hadn’t eaten breakfast yet.
So I did a little inquiry and asked myself – why aren’t you doing this?
Answer: My early morning caffeine was acting as an appetite suppressant and making me forget I was hungry until I was hangry.
Solution: Eat breakfast as soon as I get out of bed and post a photo to Instagram to check in with my accountability partner.
Need some breakfast inspiration? Click here.
Problem #3: Getting myself to the gym to lift weights twice a week for 20 minutes each session.
When I asked myself the question (with all the kindness in the world) – why aren’t you doing this?
Answer: My first response was I don’t have time. I am already stretched too thin. I have so much to do. I only have so much time for myself.
Also see: defensive. Also: only 20 minutes. (Hello, Facebook).
Reality check: All sorta true. But I know there is always something buried deep in “I don’t have time” (especially with a side order of defensiveness – I’m still peeking at you Facebook), so I kept digging.
I asked myself again – super gently with genuine inquiry – why aren’t you doing this?
Same question – Different answer: – Because I don’t have anyone to go with me. Not totally true and easily fixed. I could go at the same time my family goes or find a friend to meet me there.
Still curious, I asked myself again – why aren’t you doing this?
Same question – Different answer: Because I don’t have the right sports bra to be comfortable in while inevitably looking at myself in the mirror the entire time I’m working out.
Answer: Totally true. Not really what I want to admit because I thought I was way further along in my self-acceptance journey, but still true.
Also: Don’t you love getting to the real answer?!?!
So this leads me to this – I have been wearing the wrong bra size (by about 4 CUP SIZES for my whole life – leading to double boob and back fat) and you probably have too (even if you have gotten a fitting before).
All this investigation into self-care lead me down the let’s buy new bras road. And you know what?
Finally wearing a bra that fits feels like I can take on the world. Including the weight room.
I’d love to hear how you work around the obstacles in your life – please send me a message or leave a comment.
With lots of self-kindness and love,
PS – If something in this (or any post) resonates with you and you think someone you know might like it too, please forward it to a friend.
PPS – Side note if you don’t have boobs or don’t wear a bra, the message is really about inquiry into how to overcome the obstacles to good self-care. Also, someone you know is wearing the wrong size bra, so help a sista out and pass this on to all the women in your life.
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Want to find out if you are wearing the wrong size bra? Check out this post: Happy Boobs – be sure to watch the video Brittany shares and get ready to be amazed.
I got my new bras at Nordstrom Rack and they are also available at Nordstrom and online at Amazon.
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